I’ve done it..we all likely have at sometime in our life. A small fib on your resume, a look over at someone’s test, skipping numbers during ab exercising. But lets get real when we hear the word “cheating” we automatically think of on a spouse.
This I’ve never done. At least not by my definition of cheating. So why not?
1- Cheating is an act of extreme selfishness and disregard for a human being. A human being that you’ve shared your time with, that you’ve shared intimacy with and maybe even your family.
2- Cheating will make me lose love not just from my spouse but for myself too. The shame and the guilt would consume me.
3- Faithfulness is the right thing to do. I know what it feels like to be cheated on and when I truly love someone their pain is my pain. I do not want to cause them any pain.
4- I do not lack self control, discipline or commitment.
As I’ve said before, I’ve had extreme luck in my past relationships; yes even the one where I was cheated on. What it comes down to is that I CHOSE to be with this person. So who am I really cheating… My own choice, that’s who.
So all of the above is why I’ve never cheated. Its because even on the worst days, when a connection feels frayed & our rhythms are off. I dig as to why. Then, when I know the why I figure if it’s worth us working through it or is the connection and rhythm off because -this person just isn’t for me. Then guess what, your decision to stay with that person easily comes to you.
If I stay…I know that even if there are some things I wish I could change… cheating would change EVERYTHING and likely for forever and that’s not what I want.
Respect your choices and the people that fall under those choices.
xo- JC
